In his article Purim: Joy vs. Oblivion, Rabbi Paul Steinberg writes that “drunkenness has long been a condoned custom of Purim frivolity…the assumption is that drinking and intoxication complies with the joy of the holiday. But what if drinking does not bring one joy? What if it destroys one’s life? The most significant authors of codes of Jewish law, including Maimonides, the Shulchan Arukh, the Mapa and the Mishnah Berurah, understand that drinking is not its own mitzvah separate from general feasting. In other words, one should eat and be happy, and if drinking is suitable for that, then drink a little. If not, do not drink. And, in any case, they add, “no one should drink more than they are used to.” These are key points, because someone can fulfill all his Purim observances without drinking at all, especially if they are in recovery, and therefore not used to drinking at all. 

One Rabbinic commentator (the Bi’ur Halakhah 695:2) says explicitly: We are not obligated to become inebriated and degrade ourselves due to our joy [on Purim]. We are not obligated to engage in a Simchah (joyous occasion) of frivolity and foolishness. Rather it should lead to a Simchah of enjoyment, which should lead to love of God and thankfulness for the miracles He has performed for us.”

Here are some strategies that allow us to experience a Simchah of enjoyment without the risks of consumption or overconsumption of alcohol: 

1. Attend or Host an Alcohol-Free Purim Party:
Hosting or attending an alcohol-free Purim celebration allows you to create an environment respectful of your needs and ensures that everyone who chooses not to drink can enjoy the holiday. You can incorporate fun activities such as games, storytelling and a costume contest—providing a festive experience that doesn’t revolve around drinking.

2. Host with Harm Reduction:
If you’re attending a traditional Purim celebration, offer to help guide the host in making the event inclusive and safe for everyone. This can include offering non-alcoholic beverage options like mocktails, sparkling water or creative juices. You may also suggest a variety of Harm Reduction strategies, such as including a visible reminder to encourage responsible drinking (, such as signage promoting moderation), serving food alongside alcohol-containing drinks, and ensuring use of ride-sharing services.

3. Mindful Participation:
Before diving into any Purim activities, take a moment to reflect on your personal recovery goals and how you can stay true to your sobriety while engaging with the holiday. Stay mindful of your triggers and set boundaries before entering situations where alcohol may be present. Surround yourself with people who understand and support your recovery journey. A strong support network—whether it’s friends, family or a recovery group—can provide encouragement and help you stay grounded throughout the celebration.

4. Focus on the Spiritual Meaning:
Purim’s deeper spiritual significance extends far beyond the revelry. Reflecting on the story of Esther and the themes of courage, survival and faith can make the holiday even more meaningful. Engaging in prayer or acts of tzedakah/charity, such as giving to those in need or sending mishloach manot (gifts of food), can help deepen your connection to the holiday’s essence.

Conclusion:
Purim is a time for community connection and celebration. With thoughtful planning and inclusivity, everyone can join in the joy of the holiday—no matter where they are on their journey. By focusing on the deeper spiritual meanings of Purim and creating supportive spaces, we can celebrate in a way that respects all paths to wellness. For more information or support regarding Jewish addiction recovery, please contact BethFishman@JCFS.org, Program Manager for JCFS Chicago Addiction Services.